What should I do if my gf got married with someone else?
I have been through this.13Dec2015 Was the black date for me. Yeah she was getting married just like how your gf is.
Just after 7–8 months of our breakup,she was getting married That day. She had already done her engagement after around a couple of months after we broke up. Apparently it was a piece of cake for her. And for me it was as tough as it is for you my friend. I joined quora seeking productive distraction for my mind and i also read countless answers like these. What i am going to suggest you is just like a brother,and not as a “gyaani” lecturing about how precious your life is bla bla bla…
so here it goes
Prepare yourself to be axed by your ex. It will pain! It will bleed. But it will heal..n you ll be back to normal. Trust me!
Dont try to hide away or look away just trying to suppress yourself n ignore as if nothing has happened. NO MAN! you are human,you have full right to grieve,sob,let your inner turmoil come out. The better n sooner it does,faster it heals!
Rebounds wont work! dont get yourself into more emotional shit. Enough is enough. Right?
Distract your mind. do whatever you like doing( in usual times). Gyming movies games booze running long drive any damn thing! It ll feel boring but it wl keep you going. Just dont let yourself sit n thing. Mind is the main culprit you see,don't let the devil’s workshop work.
I know this sounds rude,even inhuman. But try to face what's happening. Acceptence is the key to recovery. it will make your heart sink,it will take time to get used to it. But it is how it should be. What she is doing is her own choice. You are valuable enough to not get affected by all that (if not today,after accepting this fact you ll do fine)
be proud on yourself for the fact that she is the one quitting this relationship and not you. You are a fighter. And you really deserve more than just rotting up where she has dumped you.
Allow time to manifest the justice of karma. If you have loved her in all honesty. You’ll see whatever you want to see. I know you wont get what u had dreamt of. But your wounds will heal!
Dont be guilty on anything. Neither for being a culp and a reason behind this breakup AND/OR even for your disturbed sleep cycle,insomnia/laziness,mood swings,weight gain/loss,depression,anxiety or any damn thing! Its the dark face. Happens to all of us. No matter how strongly we project ourselves. It pains equally!
Be prepared for being judged.Dont listen to opinions.Dont even buy suggestions (not even mine if you don't like) people will talk about you. Friends,relatives,colleague..wherever you find an as()/())..just avoid giving a damn.
Find a confidant,a friend,colleague or anyone and flow your pain out. We are all ears,always ready to share. It feels better when you have someone who understands. I had noone. N i kno how painful it is. So..ANYTIME. JUST PM ME.
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